Shame. Guilt. Dirty secrets. You've been living with a porn addiction and it's eating you alive.
How many times have you tried to tell your spouse about your porn addiction, but just couldn’t muster the courage to let the truth out? How many times have you wanted to share with someone, anyone, what’s been going on but you just don’t know where to start? What if they think less of you? What if they never trust you again? What if you lose your spouse? Your family? Every relationship you hold dear? What if it goes public? You’ve got this secret and you don’t know what to do about it.
And it’s killing you inside.
You’ve gotten really good at keeping this bottled up. Honestly, nobody knows porn is even something you think about. But in reality, it’s a daily fight. And if we’re being real honest, it’s probably a fight you’re losing pretty often. Sure, there are days, maybe even weeks you can go without looking at porn, but those cycles usually come to an end and you’re sneaking off with your phone to the bathroom at home or at work, promising yourself this time is the last time.
Except you promised yourself the same thing the last time you watched porn. And the time before that.
Why is it so hard to stop?
Because by yourself, you can’t. The problems you’re dealing with are just symptoms. They’re symptoms of a core problem. That problem can come from a lot of things, things like self-worth, value, or traumatic events from childhood. It could come from any number of things. But there is hope.
You don’t have to keep holding it in and living with the shame, guilt and regret. You can find freedom, but first, you’ve got to get real about a few things:
- Porn is a real problem for you. It’s not something you can just stop doing whenever you want.
- Surrender is key. You’ll have to reveal what’s happened and begin to make amends. You have to allow your heart and mind to begin finding healing.
- You’ll have to make some changes. Changing behaviors, attitudes and situations will be necessary.
- You’ll have to be held accountable. You’ve got to be willing to share what’s going on – and be honest – if you’re feeling tempted, or are continuing to struggle.
If you could have fixed it on your own, you would have already.
There’s no shame in trying, though. But now it’s time to try something new. You don’t have to keep living this way.
The number of people who suffer from porn addiction is staggering. And it’s not just non-Christians. In fact, a recent anonymous survey found that 57% of pastors admit to either currently or previously struggling with viewing pornography.
Seriously. 57%. If the pastor can’t stop on his own – why do you keep being so hard on yourself because you can’t quit either?
Can you actually help me?
I’ve worked with countless people who’ve been in your shoes. You’re looking to stop these destructive behaviors and this excruciating emotional pain. You’re just looking for some hope. You won’t just learn how to cover up the symptoms, but you’ll learn the HOW and WHY it’s happening, so you’ll be able to find freedom once and for all.
If you’re here, chances are you’ve ran out of hope.
And if that’s the case, you’re ready to figure a few things out.
- How to finally be open and honest with the people who are closest to you.
- How to avoid triggers that push you back into that dark place.
- How to rebuild the trust in your broken relationship.
- How to forgive yourself for the damage that’s been done.
What to expect.
The thought of sharing your deepest, darkest secret with a stranger can be unnerving. I can assure you, there’s nothing you can tell me that will make me think less of you. We’ve all messed up. We’ve all fallen short. We’ve all done things we’re not proud of. No matter what you’ve done, no matter what you’ve been through, you’re safe to share your heart. If you’ve made it this far and you’re ready to get started, you can schedule an appointment right here. But chances are the thought of scheduling an appointment is making your stomach turn.
It’s important to remember that counseling isn’t a dirty word. And Christian counseling is the perfect opportunity to combine your faith with your goals in life. If your goal is getting better, and finding peace in life, then you’re in the right place.
Getting to a counselor’s office is half the battle. That’s why I offer counseling services exclusively online. I’ve eliminated the nerves of getting in the car, finding the place, and trying to find a parking space while making it into the office on time for your appointment. If you have a webcam and can click a link, you can come to the session, no matter where you are.
When we connect, you’ll find a judgement-free-zone. Some people have made mistakes, and some have been through really, REALLY bad crap in their life. That’s okay. It’s not my place to judge what’s happened to you or what you’ve done; it’s my job to help you get your life back.
How it works.
To get started, simply schedule an appointment online. After scheduling, I’ll send you an email with some information to complete before your appointment starts. At your first appointment, we’ll talk about the challenges you’ve faced that have led you to seeking help, as well as the goals you’d like to accomplish.
Next, I’ll ask a few questions about what you’ve tried so far, including what’s been helpful and what has made you feel worse. We’ll talk about support systems you have in place, if any, and we’ll begin to develop a plan to get you on the right track.
Because everyone is different, I can’t guarantee how many sessions you’ll need to come for, but I start out meeting weekly with clients. Most clients come weekly until they start meeting their goals, and then we move to bi-weekly appointments, followed by monthly appointments, and then at the end we’ll schedule a three-month follow-up. Usually, I see people for 18-20 sessions between weekly, bi-weekly and monthly appointments.
My goal is to help you get to feeling better, so therapy doesn’t have to be a long-term commitment.